I’m always thinking about my ex-best friend

I’m always thinking about my ex-best friend and can’t focus on anything, though it has been four years since she left me. I can’t sleep at night because I keep thinking about her. I feel that whatever happens I won’t be able to get a friend like her. After four years when I talked to her she ignored me and then she said she was ready to leave the past behind and start anew; the next day she didn’t want to talk to me. I can’t move on; I can’t focus on my studies.
Annora (14)

Dear Annora,

Looks like you feel so deeply hurt and rejected by your friend. Your friend is treating you like a puppet on her string: She first ignored you, then gave you hope by saying she was ‘ready to leave the past behind’, then took it back and ‘didn’t want to talk to you’. Think about it, would you still like to run after a person who does not respect your feelings at all?

Just the way chanting a sloka repeatedly helps our positive prayers to be answered, the same way if we repeat negative statements such as I won’t be able to get a friend like her,’, ‘I just want to be her friend now, nothing else’, — your brain begins to believe those negative thoughts. These negative thoughts keep you stuck in a room called ‘The Past’, which is dark.

So, open your door, step out and close it on the past! Tell yourself, “I have moved on, and have made new friends”. And, there are many ways to make new friends… Slowly, watch your world become a brighter place!