Dear Sanjana, love is built on the free decision of two persons to enter into a committed relationship. As that boy is a friend also of your girlfriend, he has to explain to her what has happened and what he feels towards you. You did not rob her boyfriend; it was he, in the first place, who “gradually fell in love” with you. Let him speak frankly to her.

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Dear Richa, your dad loves you very much and does not want you to be upset or worried by the financial problems of the family. I am sure he can handle them, though he may not be able to, at this moment, to fulfil all the wishes of his children. Tell him that you appreciate his efforts and sacrifices and that what you really need is his love and not material things.

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Dear Preeti, friendship is a beautiful relationship of mutual trust that grows with time. You seem to be in a hurry to build new friendships, even before knowing well the new girls that have come to your school. Have patience; give them time to slowly come to understand you and appreciate you. In the meantime, have your tiffin with the other two girls, whom you say are not of your mentality. Be humble and kind to them; you might realize that they are not at all bad and could actually become good friends. You also made the mistake of not telling your parents about this situation. They too can advise and help you in taking the right decision about changing your school.

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Dear Aarti, at your age crushes come and go. Maybe that boy is involved in other relationships that keep him busy or may be thinking you are no more interested in him, as you do not even say “hi” to him. As you like him now only as a friend, there is no need of being scared. Feel free to smile at him and ask about his parents, with whom you may have gone out for dinner together several times in the past. He will most probably reply and this could revive your friendship. There is nothing wrong in trying to keep in touch with a childhood friend.

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Dear Tina, it is painful to experience lack of trust and abuses from one’s own family members (especially from the mother) because of having a boyfriend. You knew that, in spite of living in a cosmopolitan city like Mumbai, your mom is “completely orthodox” and probably also your other family members; this means they do not accept that boys and girls build up close relationships. Maybe they thought you were spending a lot of time with that boy or neglecting your studies because of him and wanted to put an end to it (as you have done). It will never be stressed enough that in the family parents should never abuse their children, rather they should build a patient and loving dialogue with them, especially during the teenage, in order to help understand each other and solve peacefully any problem.

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Dear Shruthi, parents show their love for their children not only when they praise and appreciate them but also when they correct them and show displeasure at some wrong behaviour. This is a sacred right and duty of every parent. Listen carefully when your mother corrects you; most probably you deserved her correction. She is not against you but actually showing her love and care in correcting you, so that you will improve yourself. Be more humble and change your attitude.

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Dear Arun, more than tips on how to impress that girl “so that she at least starts liking” you, you need to learn to respect other people’s feelings. If she likes someone else more than you, respect her, be patient and behave in a friendly way, without trying to impress her at any cost. Offer her help if she needs it, smile and be polite. A good performance in your studies may also bring you to her notice. At the age of 14 your studies should be your priority.

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Dear Vidhi, you were right in judging your relationship with that boy as just “a hopeless crush”. Unfortunately, your many chats with him on Facebook made you enter a relationship with him. Now you have realized his true colours: he is jealous of you and everything you do, is arrogant and rude and seems to like you more for your physical qualities than for your intelligence. Your decision to break up with him is the right thing to do. Do not allow him to dominate your life and suffocate you. A person who behaves like that cannot be considered “one of the few good friends” you have. Stop wasting your time with him.

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Dear Rashmi, it seems you are very jealous of that girl because your “friends are always with her” and “because of her my friends left me alone”. Jealousy is a bad emotional feeling that can upset your judgement: “she is not a nice girl”, “she isn’t good”, “I hate her”. Rather than giving in to negative feelings, ask yourself the reason why everybody likes her. She may have some positive qualities that make her attractive. I suggest you spend some time with her and talk to her with an open mind; you may discover that she is not what you think and she can be a nice friend. Stop hating and start loving.

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Dear Dina, I appreciate your desire to help a friend who is going through a difficult moment, yet, you should realize that solving her problem is not in your hands because of your lack of experience. Getting too closely involved in other people’s problems to the point of not being able to concentrate on your studies is only going to make things worse for you and for her. First of all, she did not ask for your help to solve her problem; in fact she “doesn’t talk to anyone” in the school and “is not interested in studies”. She seems to want to be left in peace; respect her feelings. Her teachers are upset and her family members will also come to understand from her poor performance, that something is wrong with her and will help her.

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