As I read the above question, I see a lot of statements directed at “he wants”, and rather a very few at “this is what I want” or “I don’t want this”. Every relationship is about two people and never one person. Your comfort is your priority, and you cannot allow anyone to touch you without your consent. If you feel this will salvage your relationship, your thinking is completely wrong. If you are taking a decision in order to please another person, you are going to fall in your own eyes. I suggest you talk to him about this and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you are not sure at this point and wouldn’t want to go ahead. If he is not happy or refuses to accept what you have said, you must know that this is not the right relationship for you.

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Success. The most dominating thought which everyone just keeps on pondering all day and night. What I dug out was that it is inner peace which leads you towards your ultimate goal. It gives proper direction to all your thoughts and actions required for your mission. Never hesitate to do the thing which brings you peace. Peace keeps your state of mind stable. And stability makes you survive over all situations.

There is a storehouse of energy in every individual which needs proper direction. As I said, it is a storehouse, so that energy is expected to be used only when required. No one is a soothsayer to say what is going to happen the next moment. So why should one waste their energy over-thinking and disturb their state of peace? Let that situation have an encounter with you (the energy is already there to deal with it). You can’t have peace with your mind wandering in the future.
Learn to live with your dreams, dreams that bring peace, serenity and composure in your life. Spend the energy working for your dreams; not thinking about them (it won’t make them a reality). And never ever underestimate your dreams for anyone else. No one else can understand them. If you know that this is what brings you happiness, peace… just chase it even if no one supports you. You don’t need anyone’s approval for your goal.

Choosing that strange road completely changed me. Today, I stand as an evolved person who could see all my dreams coming true. Just believe in yourself and you are halfway there. Try finding your strange road. It is “the game changer”!

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These extremely relatable lyrics from a song by the band U2 made me feel like I wasn’t the only one who didn’t have it all figured out when I was in college. All around me, people were confidently making 5-year plans or even writing up essays as part of their applications to overseas universities, while I simply gathered notes to prepare for the next semester examination.

I’ve never been one to have it all figured out and I’m often left amazed at the ones who do have their plan in place and the way they go about it with such determined precision. But, let me just tell you that it’s not such a bad thing if you find yourself where I did. And honestly, this certainty of knowing how you want to go about the next stage of your life doesn’t end at choosing the right field or making the right career choice after college. There are times when I still find myself humming the words of this song and I feel relieved at the comfort it brings.

You must think I’m crazy to say that there’s comfort in uncertainty. Well, uncertainty can be as chaotic as you make it out to be. Isn’t it great to have a plan in place? Of course it is! But, what if you don’t? What if you haven’t managed to single out a subject you’re really interested in and would like to devote the new few years of your life to pursuing? What if your passion lies in one too many things and you haven’t found a way to string them all together? What if you simply want to take some time to think about it and not pile on with the herd that’s swiftly pushing forward?

Well, that’s alright. It’s alright to not know where you’re headed or have a clear goal in mind. What’s important is that you acknowledge it and give yourself some breathing space once in a while. It’s easy to get caught up with the quick pace that we’ve all set out on. But, if your vehicle isn’t set on the same gear as the rest, it’s all the more easier to lag behind and start to feel like a failure.

So, let me suggest something. If you ever find yourself in this uncertain situation, why not park your vehicle aside and step out for a bit? Let the race go on as you pause to consider what’s best for you. Racing ahead without a goal in mind simply because everyone else is doing it isn’t going to benefit you much in the long run. So, while you’re in this stepping outside phase, use this time to focus on things you really like to do, whatever it may be.

Whether its arts, science, drama, music or astronomy, remember that there are countless possibilities that are in store. Explore various fields, try your hand out at several things that spark an interest in you, don’t shy away from experimenting or even getting in touch with people who are experts in these fields. What better way to learn and see what these fields really entail.

I consider it a gift, not having things figured out. It helps me push myself to look for new, innovative things to do and it also challenges me to take on things that I didn’t think I could do. It all depends on how you shape this season of uncertainty. Use it to your advantage — head out there and explore the different options for yourself and then challenge yourself to have a go at it. You’ll be surprised at how clear the path eventually becomes.

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Choose, they said,
Between that gentle man who guided you,
And the woman who made you laugh when you were about to cry.

Choose, they said,
Between that perfect father and not-so-perfect husband,
And that woman who taught you how to love.

Choose, they said,
Between the man whom you call your father,
And the woman who just can’t stop being a mother.

Choose, they said.

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~ DALAI LAMA

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If your friends made such a list right now, under which heading would they write your name? Do they see you as enthusiastic, affirmative and optimistic? Or do they believe you see more problems than solutions?

It’s time to knock the “t” off the “can’t”. As author Frank Hughes says: “I will say this about being an optimist; even when things don’t turn out well, you are certain they will get better.”

You are only a decision away from responding with hope instead of fear, with encouragement instead of criticism, with belief instead of despair. It’s your choice!

~ NEIL ESKELIN

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Recently there was an advertisement for an educational portal that encouraged students to stop being sheep — merely following others to make educational choices but rather to use their portal to make personal decisions in order to stand out from the crowd. This is a predicament that most students face because of the sheer number of courses and programs that are available to students today: ‘It’s so confusing … What else can I do other than follow someone else’s advice?’

Some of us deal with this prickly situation by questioning why we even need to spend so much time studying all those subjects, which anyway seem so unconnected to life. “Why do I need to study?” This is a question that almost every student in school asks at some time or the other, of themselves, or their teachers or their parents. The stock answer that most adults will generally give is: “Because it is what you need to do for your future. If you don’t study now, what will you become when you grow up?”

What will I become when I grow up? Well, that is the million-dollar question that perplexes not just students today but also their parents. The dilemma students’ face today is that there are just too many choices that one can choose from — not just in terms of occupations, but also in terms of education; and this only adds to the confusion. And just to make matters worse, we are bombarded by advice from all sides about what is best suited to us.

“I think you should do this” … “No, do that” … “This is what is best for you!” Yes! But if everything is the best for me, how do I choose what is really the best for me? And if I don’t really know what I want to become, then when it comes to making a choice of what to study next, I invariably find myself being forced to choose one course or another. Given that I haven’t really understood what each course is about, most individuals tend to go with the general opinion about academic programs to make their choice. The real question that most of us face or will face is: How do I decide what to study?

There are four possible ways in which we arrive at a decision. For some of us the answer is simple. I just go with what either my parents or elders in the family suggest. This approach is based on an inherent sense of trust that my parents and family elders know what is best for me. There is no doubting our parents or other elders’ good intentions. They sincerely desire the best for us. But how well do they really know me? How aware are they of the options that are available to me as a student of today? Are they really equipped to comprehend the world that I will have to live in? If the answer to any of these questions has an element of uncertainty to it, then this is not really the best way to go.

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